“I hope they make this required reading not only for every teenage girls in America but for every
boy, man and woman, whether partnered or not, because we could all use a dose of its well-
researched wisdom.”
The Washington Post
“What happens when we can’t stop wanting someone who won’t love us back? In Unrequited, Lisa
Phillips tackles with empathy and wisdom the pain of desire that is left unreciprocated.”
Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
“The heart, indeed, is a lonely hunter. As Phillips shows, the hunt may be more engrossing, more
thrilling, but more disappointing than the catch. Unrequited lovers will learn they are not alone, and
they will also acquire useful tips on ways of letting go for good.”
Booklist
"Unrequited offers a compassionate perspective toward those seeking insight into complicated
heartache, particularly women struggling to move forward with their love lives."
Pittsburgh City Paper
“Rare is the woman who hasn’t struggled with unrequited love and wondered why it makes her feel
so crazy. Deeply researched and compellingly written, Unrequited unravels the complex psychology
of this obsession and offers an illuminating path back to balance and peace.”
Colette Dowling, psychotherapist and author of The Cinderella Complex
“Phillips is a fluid storyteller, incorporating her own experience with unrequited love into a cross-
disciplinary journey through changing ideas of desire.”
Publisher’s Weekly
"A sympathetic exploration of the misunderstood phenomenon of women and 'the stubbornness of
romantic obsession.'"
Kirkus
“Unfortunately, there is no cure for the pain of rejection, although researchers are working on it.
Until then, Phillips suggests we ‘honor passion by confining and using it instead of letting it diminish
us.”
Chicago Tribune
"Phillips explains the psychology and biology of extreme love—not so different from OCD or
addiction—and notes the damaging tendency to excuse stalkers if they are women."
Pacific Standard
"Phillips writes of the obsession that "changed me from a sane, conscientious college teacher and
radio reporter into someone I barely knew—someone who couldn't realize that she was taking her
yearning much, much too far."
Chronogram Magazine
"Lisa A. Phillips tackles a timely, deeply personal topic....This is a compellingly written, eye-opening
guide."
Bookpage
"In the telling of her own story and those of numerous other women, Phillips pieces together a
fascinating journey into the minds of those who have been spurned."
Library Journal
"Lisa A. Phillips’s Unrequited explores the psychological components of unrequited love and
romantic obsession, but she captures the invigorating side of unrequited experiences, too.
Unrequited love signals brand-new emotional territory and the ability to learn about yourself."
